BRINGING UP CHILDREN
• Teach values such as honesty, integrity, patience and self-control gradually and steadily, that
too by your own example.
To be an excellent father or mother requires a great deal of understanding oneself and also the children. This article is an attempt to reveal you the art of handling children, making them more self - disciplined, self motivated and self directed. The parents create a perfect role model.
This need to encourage the right values and behaviors bring us to the question of discipline. Swami Rama wrote in his book Love and Family Life:
Swami Vivekananda, founder of Ramakrishna Mission, uses the analogy of growing a plant to drive home the point:
To extend this analogy still further, early childhood can be compared to soil that is just prepared for sowing the seed. It is a great opportunity in the life of the child, and an even greater opportunity for the guardian, to sow the seed of knowledge and of righteousness in the heart of the child.
If you are thinking that if you keep thinking about your children all the time, your children will become better and better - that is an assumption. It definitely does not necessarily mean that. Thinking a lot for your children does not definitely mean that what you think as a parent all the time will help you create what you want to within your child’s behavior. To be precise, thinking a lot for your children means that though you love them you are always concerned about them. Concerns will never ever help you in creating what you wish to create. Concerns do not improve your relations with your child but degrade them rather. Concerns do not build trust but break trust.
Sometimes, as I say: “Be free and let others free”… Let your child free and let them be out in the open rather than keep them closed in a box where there is no light, all darkness.
Sometimes, just leave whatever is happening to the world and become free of your worries. Take some rests and peace of mind. This will enable you in growing as a better parent any day any time.
Kahlil Gibran beautifully expresses the same thought in this much-quoted passage from The Prophet:
The different roles and duties parents have to perform keep changing as the children grow up. Awareness of their responsibility is essential to ensure that parents remain mindful of their duties on a day-to-day basis. They need to be self-controlled, tolerant, selfless, patient, generous, kind, flexible, and above all, givers of unconditional love. It is difficult, no doubt, but it has been done for centuries and shall continue for many more. So, let us take strength from Kahlil Gibran's words.
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